I’m pretty sure that I am easily my harshest critic. That being said, I don’t need you to judge me and I promise I will do my hardest not to judge you.
I am an individual, just like everyone else. My needs, goals, struggles and victories are all specific to me. We may share some of these things, but the whole package is mine alone. I do my best not to compare myself to anyone. My fast may be your slow, or my slow may be your fast. And that is totally okay with me.
Although these things are mine alone, I want to be there for you for your struggles and victories. I will be there to support you with whatever you need. I will be there to celebrate your victories or buy a few drinks or ice cream when we just need to make it through a rough patch. If you need to head out for another run and just need companionship, I am your girl.
I ask the same of you.
I don’t need you to make me feel bad about being good at something, or to see you gloat through my struggles. I just need a friend there for me. You see, I am my harshest critic. When I struggle, I think about it for hours or days and I dwell on how I can get better. I don’t need someone making me feel worse or feel like less of a person because I am not perfect. Let me be clear: I am not perfect. I do not pretend to be. I will make many mistakes and I need someone to be there for me as well. I also need you to be supportive of when I do have success, even if you are not having the same.
We all have an awesome opportunity to be part of the best community out there. The active community – whether a runner, cyclist, triathlete or just an athlete – is the most powerful community I’ve ever been a part of. I’ve seen the good and I’ve seen the bad. No one benefits from the bad. When you are mean to someone else, you are not only hurting someone else, you are hurting yourself. You gain nothing from being mean. Let me be clear, I do not tolerate mean in my life. Life is too short to have you bring me down. There is so much more power in being kind. A kind word or just companionship can change lives.
Think of the people who have had the most influence in your life, I’m going to bet most of them have been kind while supporting you through your highs and helping you through the lessons of your lows. Be that for someone else. Sometimes they may say exactly what you need but not what you want to hear and that’s okay. There is so much more power in being kind.
Thank you for everyone who has helped support me through the highs and lows. You are all family to me and I hold you very close to my heart.
I challenge you today to be that for someone else. It may not be convenient to you, but be there for someone else through their highs and lows. The return on that can change a friendship forever.